Bonhag
As the holiday season approaches, many of us feel the excitement in the air with the twinkling lights, festive gatherings, and the spirit of giving. In contrast, it’s important to acknowledge that the holidays can also bring stress and emotional turmoil. As a mental health professional, I want to emphasize the importance of prioritizing our mental health during this time, particularly for those grappling with grief, substance use, or complex family dynamics. It’s crucial to recognize that feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or even sad during this time is perfectly normal and valid.
If you’re grappling with grief, the holiday season can amplify your feelings of loss. It’s important to honor these feelings instead of suppressing them. Grief doesn’t follow a linear path, and it can intensify when surrounded by reminders of our loved ones. Allowing yourself to grieve is a vital part of healing and expressing that grief can be cathartic. Whether it’s through journaling or talking with a trusted friend, acknowledging your emotions is a crucial step.
For individuals in recovery or choosing sobriety, the holiday season can be especially challenging. Alcohol and other substances often permeate holiday gatherings, which can create pressure and temptations. It’s important to prepare for these situations by identifying your triggers and establishing a solid support system. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who respect your choices can make a significant difference in maintaining your mental health during this season.
The holidays can also magnify complex family dynamics. Whether it’s unresolved conflicts or differing expectations, tensions can run high. To manage these stresses, set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being. Before family gatherings, think about what topics are off-limits or how to gracefully exit conversations that may become too heated. Consider approaching family interactions with compassion. Everyone has their struggles and understanding that others may be grappling with issues can create a more empathetic atmosphere for everyone.
Here are a few strategies to help prioritize your mental health during the holidays:
- Set realistic expectations: Understand that it’s OK for things not to be perfect. Focus on what brings you joy and peace.
- Create new traditions: If you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one, consider establishing new traditions that honor their memory. This could involve lighting a candle, sharing stories, or volunteering in their name. These acts can create a sense of connection and comfort.
- Take breaks: It’s easy to become overwhelmed with holiday events. Don’t hesitate to step back and take a moment for yourself when you need it. Giving yourself permission to recharge can significantly benefit your mental well-being.
- Reach out for support: Remember, you are not alone. Many people struggle during the holidays. Consider connecting with a therapist or joining a support group to share your experiences. It can be incredibly validating to be in a space with others who understand what you’re going through.
As we embrace the festive spirit, let’s also make a collective effort to prioritize mental health. By taking steps to care for ourselves and acknowledging our emotions we can create a more compassionate and supportive environment for ourselves and those around us.
Caitlin Bonhag is a mental health therapist who is currently accepting new clients at Mental Wellness Counseling in Traverse City. To learn more about Caitlin and other therapists at Mental Wellness Counseling visit www.mentalwellnesscounseling.com
